Teacher's pet

There is a story many years ago of an elementary teacher. Her name was Mrs. Thompson. And as she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children a lie. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same.

But that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard. Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he didn't play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. And Teddy could be unpleasant. It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.

At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise.

Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners...he is a joy to be around."

His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle."

His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."

Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and sometimes sleeps in class."

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's. His present which was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper that he got from a grocery bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one quarter full of perfume. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist.

Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to." After the children left she cried for at least an hour.

On that very day, she quit teaching reading, and writing, and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children.. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive.

The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one her "teacher's pets."

A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Then four more years passed and yet another letter came.. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer -- the letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, M.D.

The story doesn't end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he'd met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit in the place at the wedding that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom.

Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. And she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together. They hugged each, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference."

Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you."

Helmet

(A girl and guy were speeding over 100 mph on a motorcycle)

Girl: Slow down. I’m scared.
Guy: No this is fun.
Girl: No its not. Please, it’s too scary!
Guy: Then tell me you love me.
Girl: Fine, I love you. Slow down!
Guy: Now give me a BIG hug.
(Girl hugs him)
Guy: Can u take my helmet off and put it on? It’s bugging me.

In the paper the next day: A motorcycle had crashed into a building because of break failure. Two people were on the motorcycle, but only one survived. The truth was that halfway down the road, the guy realized that his breaks broke,but he didn't want to let the girl know. Instead, he had her say she loved him, felther hug one last time, then had her wear his helmet so she would live even though itmeant he would die.

Break up lines...

FAMOUS STARTING BREAKUP LINES:

1. We need to talk.

kabahan k na pag eto ang simula ng isang tipikal n phonecall ng syota mo...seryoso masyado eh, nkakatakot...tipong..'ha? bakit? anong pag uusapan..' malamang ksunod n nyan ung mga linyang ayw mong marinig..hayyy...

2. It's not you. It's me.

ayun naman eh, matinding pampalubag loob...nde mo nga nmn ksalanan..sya nga daw eh..mas okay nga nmng isipin mo n sya ang may mali, nde ikaw, mababwasan pa ang bigat ng kunsensya nya sa mga kalokokohang ginawa nya, na malamang eh sya ring dahilan kung bkit ka nya iiwan..hinayupak...

3. I've lied

ah, lalake b sya? nde na bago un..hahahah...parang eto p lng marinig mo okay n eh, nagsinungaling n nga eh, ano pa ba pwedeng makabawi dun dba..either, nagsinungaling sya n single p sya, o nde lng pla ikaw ang gf nya, o lalake din ang type nya..quese jodang dahilan mn yan eh wala ka na dapaat pakelam...nagsinungalin sya, tpos..although sa case nating mga girls e mahirap yang gawing basis, kasi malamang, laging tapos ang relasyon nyo..hehe

4. Do you remember when i said everything is alright?

well, it's not..it never was and never will be...un n un..ikaw naman...syempre nung simula, mejo pa lng, kaya p nyang pagtakpan ung totoong nararamdaman nya na ayaw n nya, sasabihin muna nyang..'ok lang, we're cool'..pero darating din ung point n sagd na, na di nya na carry magsinungaling syo..kaya eto..malalaman mo na all this time eh nagtitiyaga lang sya sa yo...hay buhay...

5. I need some time to find myself.

pucha! sino pa kayang bibili nitong excuse na to no? wala e, feeling ko lang kasi, minsan eto na ung pinaka safe sabihin, kasi wala ka n ding laban dito e...kahit kasi anong paliwanag ang hingin mo, at kahit pano nya pa to i-explain syo, ang ending, sya lang ang nakakaintindi nun, at kahit mahirap para syo, tatanggapin mo na lng...haayyyy ulit...

6. I'm not good enough for you.

almost the same with 'it's not you, it's me..' dito nga langmas binaba nya ung sarili nya...pinanarealize nya sa'yo na langit ka, lupa ako..ganung level..siguro nung umpisa palng ng relasyon nyo, aware n sya dito eh, pero syempre habang tumatagal, nahihirapan n din sya, pwedeng madaming instances n hindi na nya masakyan ung kasosyalan mo, o masyado kang matalino para s kanya, o isa kang dyosa ng kagandahan..minsan kasi, kahit ikaw pa ung bumaba sa pedestal mo para sa knya, e wala din, maiisip at maiisip pa din nya ang sasabihin ng mga tao..masakit yun para sa kanya, ung tipong ngalakad kyo sa mall, tpos maririnig nya ung mga tao n nagsasabing 'swerte naman nung panget n yan..cguro mayaman o kaya sobrang bait'...hehe, di ba masaklap un, kya yan nlang, you're too much for him...

7. I think we're better off as friends.

ouch! ang sakit naman nun, matapos mo syang mahalin ng lubusan, bigla na lng nyang sasabihing 'friends' na lng kayo...shumowbiz ba?! sbagay, kung maganda naman ang piangsamahan nyo,tipong you just grew apart o simpleng na fall-out of love n lang kayo, it would really be nice to stay friends with him, after all, may pingsamahan naman kayo dba..pero eto ha, kung winalanghiya k nya, niloko, pinaglaruan nya ang puso mo, sinaktan, pinerahan o kung ano pa man eh..HELL NO!, u can never be friends with him, friends nya mukha nya..wehehehe

8. I don't love you anymore.

do i need to say more? un n un eh, direct to the point, wag k ng humingi ng explanation...tanggapin mo na lang..malamang yan n tlga ung nararamdaman nya as of the moment, at least he was brave enough to say it to your face, isipin mo di ba..gusto mo p bang patagalin pa ung relasyon na wala nmn n tlga syang nararamdaman para sayo..di na uso ang unconditional love ha, o ang one-sided love affair...pag di k na nya love..tama na, sa ibang tao mo na lang ibaling ang pagmamahal mo..buti nga dba sinabi p nya kesa nmn pagmukhain k pa nyang tanga...okay lang yan, makakhanap k pa ng iba..huwag ipilit ang hindi pwede oki... ;>

9. I wanted to fix things, alone.

alone? ung relasyon ba natin ang kailangan mong ayusin? e bakit alone? ksali ko dapat dba...so para din tong 'i need some space'...e honey halos hindi n nga tayo nagkikita eh, bihira n din tyo mag text o magtawagan, tpos space pa?...hay hay hay...parang isang malaking kalokohan no, but then again, isa lng tong nice way of saying 'idon't need you anymore'...'pabayaan mo nkong mag isa'...'umalis ka sa harapan ko, or else..tatamaan k'...aray, tanggapin mo na lang din to, ayaw n nya eh, it's over...mahirap lang no, kasi ang dating, di n nya kailangan n nandun k para sa kanya..kaya n nya na wala ka, so dapat kayanin mo din n wala sya..tanggapin mo na lng na nasusuya na sya sa pagmumukha mo, na sawang sawa na sya na nakikita ko, un...

10. I LOVE YOU, but...

wag mo nang subukan pang pakinggan kung ano man ang susunod nyang sasabihin...pwede ba? mahal mo ko? mahal mo ko? e ano pa yang pero pero mo n yan...madaming problema, un lang un di ba..ayaw mo n sakin,e bkit kailangan mo pang sbihing mahal mo ko? consuelo de bobo? para nga naman nde ako mukhang kawawa, para nga naman may mukaha pakonh ihaharap sa mga tao pag nagtanong sila..'mahal pa din nmn nya ko eh, medyo may peroblema lang'..ni hindi mo nga masabi kung ano problema eh, kasi nga 'mahal' k pa din nya...ah ewan...

Siguro nga nde madaling makipaghiwalay no, lalo n kung naging mabait tlga ung taong un sayo, ung nagmahalan naman talaga kayo...kaya siguro madaming nausong pang uto na break up lines eh, to make it easier for the other party, minsan kasi kayang pagtakapan ng magagandang salita ang sakit n pwedeng idulot ng pakikipaghiwalay...pero syempre, pinaktama pa din na malaman nya ang totoo, malamang, magalit sya syo, isusumpa k nya, pati mga kaibigan mo, hehe..pero believe me, eventually, mapapatawad ka din nya, siguro after 12 years..wahahah...joke..dadating din ung time n un na, nakalimutan na nya ung kasalanan mo s kanya, ung pagtatawanan nyo na lang ung nakaraan, ung pagkekwentuhan nyo na ung buhay nyo ngayon, na mas naging okay kayo...and naging magkaibigan kayo, mas okay un di ba... ;>

Parental Wisdom- Pinoy Style

Hinding-hindi ko makakalimutan ang mga mumunti ngunit Ginintuang butil na payo na nakuha ko sa aking mga magulang.

1. Si Inay, tinuruan niya ako HOW TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE:
"Kung kayong dalawa ay magpapatayan, doon kayo sa labas! Mga Leche kayo,kalilinis ko lang ng bahay."

2. Natuto ako ng RELIGION kay Itay:
"Kapag yang mantsa di natanggal sa uniform, magdasal ka na!"

3.Kay Inay ako natuto ng LOGIC:
"Kaya ganyan, dahil sinabi ko."

4. At kay Inay pa rin ako natuto ng MORE LOGIC:
"Pag ikaw nalaglag diyan sa bubong, ako lang mag-isa ang Manonood ng sine."

5. Si Inay din ang nagturo sa akin kung ano ang ibig sabihin ng IRONY:
"Sige ngumalngal ka pa at bibigyan talaga kita ng iiyakan mo!"

6. Si Inay ang nagpaliwanag sa akin kung ano ang CONTORTIONISM:
"Tingnan mo nga yang dumi sa likod ng leeg mo, tingnan mo!!!"

7. Si Itay ang nagpaliwanag sa akin kung ano ang ibig sabihin Ng STAMINA:
"Wag kang tatayo diyan hangga't di mo nauubos lahat ng pagkain mo!"

8. At si Inay ang nagturo sa amin kung ano ang WEATHER:
"Lintek talaga kayo, ano ba itong kuwarto nyong magkapatid, Parang dinaanan ng bagyo!"

9. Ganito ang paliwanag sa akin ni Inay tungkol sa CIRCLE OF LIFE:
"Malandi kang bata ka, iniluwal kita sa mundong ito, maari rin kitang alisin sa mundong ito."

10. Kay Itay ako natuto kung ano ang BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION:
"Tumigil ka nga diyan! Huwag kang umarte na parang Nanay mo!"

11. Si Inay naman ang nagturo kung anong ibig sabihin ng GENETICS:
"Nagmana ka nga talaga sa ama mong walanghiya!"

12. Si Inay naman ang nagpaliwanag sa amin kung anong ibig Sabihin ng ENVY:
"Maraming mga batang ulila sa magulang. Di ba kayo Nagpapasalamat at mayroon kayong magulang na tulad namin?"

13. Si Itay naman ang nagturo sa akin ngANTICIPATION:
"Sige kang bata ka, hintayin mong makarating tayo sa bahay!"

14. At si Itay pa rin ang nagturo kay Kuya kung anong ibig Sabihin ng RECEIVING:
"Uupakan kita pagdating natin sa bahay!"

15. Si Inay naman ang nagturo sa akin kung ano ang HUMOR:
"Kapag naputol yang mga paa mo ng pinaglalaruan mong lawnmower, Wag na wag kang tatakbo sa akin at lulumpuhin kita!"

16. At ang pinakamahalaga sa lahat, natutunan ko kina Inay at Itay kung ano ang JUSTICE:"Balang araw magkakaroon ka rin ng anak...tiyak magiging katulad mo at magiging sakit din sa ulo!"

a blonde's diary

wahahahahaha...so funny...

another kagagahan story

Below is the winning piece in the latest contest sa UP Creative writing

Its been 4 months since i saw him and talagang namimiss ko na siya... pero what can i do? it seems that i have loved the wrong person.... but still the pain keeps on hurting me and kung walang magbibigay ng gamot para dito sa nararamdaman ko.... baka mamatay na ako....To give you a background about my life, everything seems to be fine except dun sa time na dumating na sa buhay ko yung hinayupak na lalake na yon.... hehehehe.... kung curious kayo about dun sa guy... bestfriend ko po yon kaso lang iba na ang nangyari as time passes by.....Classmate ko sya nung highschool. pards pa nga ang tawagan namen.... o db ang sweet? di na ako iba sa kanya and ganon na ren sya sa aken.... kung di nga lang ako naging babae baka naiuwi na ako nun sa bahay nila and baka lahat ng gawaing pang brusko eh ipagawa na nun sa ken eh..... pero cyempre mukha pa ren naman akong babae noh!!highskul cyempre may prom.... wala cyang date, wla ren ako.... i know that he wanted to invite me to be his date pero ang ogag nga kasi nun kaya the last minute tsaka lang sya nag-ask. he went to our house... nakamotor po sya and medyo pawisan pero infairness.... mabango pa ren....he ask my permission to see my dress for the prom.... cyempre para maloka sya sa aken at may konting surprise... i refuse.... o sige, medyo na frustrate sya pero hindi yon naging hadlang para invite nya ko.... sa ganda ko na to..... cyempre ang dami munang pa-echeng.... hanggang sa tanungin nya ako kung may date na ba me.... e kung di ba naman siya abnormal eh.... papayag ba akong makipagdate sa iba eh sya lang ang gusto ko.... lam mo yon... sarap sampalin.... so in short, papilit pa ba ako? syempre.....

the night of my life came, i was so pretty sabi ng nang-uuto kong nanay... pero naniwala lang ako nang sya na ang nagsabi.... blush ako ever.... kahit alam kong maganda ako since birth(hehehehe) iba pa ren yung sa kanya galing diba?we enjoyed that night and lalo ko lang napatunayan sa sarili ko na mahal ko na pala ang hinayupak na bestfrend ko......

syempre ano pa ba ang sunod na event sa prom kundi ang graduation na db? the night before the graduation, we talked on the phone na para bang it would be the last time na maririnig namen ang boses ng isat-isa..... ive waited for the moment namabanggit nya na may feelings din sya and hindi naman ako nagkamali.... tinanong nya ako kung may possibilty daw na maging kame.... i know na maiinis kayo sa ken dahil alam nyo ba ang sagot ko? ah, eh.... hindi pwede kase bestfrends tayo eh.... yung mga anak na lang naten yung ipag-partner naten.... sa isip-isip ko.... ang tanga! pano ko nasabi ang ganong words? pero wala na akong magagawa..... alam namang bawiin ko pa eh di nahuli naman ako db? pero ang tanga ko talga....

cyempre college na.... im so proud to say na napunta naman ako sa magandang school and take note... pareho kame ng skul..... ano to? kailangan bang ituloy ang naudlot na pagmamahalan namen?.... hehehe....nagkaboyfriend ako for a year and a half.... minahal ko sya pero there are these conflicts and problems na di na kayang ayusin.... in short.... nagbreak kame..... i guess god meant that to happen kasi yon din yung time na nagkita kame ng bestfrend ko..... sa sobrang miss namen ang isa't-isa.... sabay na kameng umuwi, kumain, pumasok..... im happy pero parang lalo ko lang pinahirapan ang sarili ko dahil my feelings for that guy grows each and everytime that we are together... buti na lang magaling akong magtago at magpigil.... hehehe....bilib kayo noh?.....one morning, im so busy preparing my project that would be pass on that same day.... alam kong dumati ng na sya at nasa likuran ko na ang mokong pero dahil sobrang pressure sa project.... gusto ko man syang dambahan... cyempre mamayang gabi na lang di ba? hehehe.... di ko sya masyadong napansin..... may inabot syang sulat sa aken and he asked if i could join him sa lunch.... i said yes.... then, alis na cya.... alam naman kc nyang im busy.....when i was about to enter the room, somebody bumped me and my precious project fell... gusto ko mang magalet... what can i do db? instead i ask my prof to give me another chance to do my project....naalala ko si mokong.... the lunch date.... kinuha ko ang cell ko to text him that i cant come to our meeting.... e kaso.... pag tinamaan k nga naman ng malas.... check operator service daw.... i tried to look for friends or other kakilala pero malas that day talaga....and so i took my lunch all by my self....

naalala ko yung letter.... hinanap ko sa bag... WALA !!!! bumalik me sa corridor praying na andon pa yung sulat.... wala ren.... god! why? minsan lang magbigay ng sulat yon.... nawala pa....dont know how to tell him about the letter.... and so days and weeks passed, pag nagkikita kame... di nya ako pinapansin... ako, i tried to talk to him pero alam kong may kasalanan ako pero ganon ba kalaki ang nagawa kong di pagpunta at ganon na lang ang iwas nya?... sige... hinayaan ko na lang.... months na ang binilang... i heard that he was dating a girl from the same school that we are in... masakit.... na sa iba ko pa narinig na sila na.... mas masakit na wala na akong halaga sa kanya.....basta...

ilang araw din yon na ganon ang nararamdaman ko.... weeks.... months.... gagraduate na po ako.... i wonder what's instore for me in my last day in school.... and so i thought na puntahan yung favorite hang out namen.... when i was about to get near the place.... i saw him... with the girl.... umiiyak ang bruha but i cant hear what they are talking about.... so ive decided to get out of that place before my tears burst out.... and then a common frend ang sumalubong sa aken.... saying na buntis ang girl.... syempre.... durog na durog ang puso ko.... kung kaya nyo lang ma-imagine yung naramdaman ko.....the night of that same day.... naloka ang lola nyo.... nagparamdam ang mokong pagkaraan ng pagkatagal-tagal na panahon... i thought it was something good for me... for us.... pero i was wrong.... so wrong..... he gave me a wedding invitation and isa ako sa bridesmaids..... the girl... she was waiting in the car.... o db? dati motor lang ngaun... car na....and so the wedding came.... maganda po ako nun.... sabi ng nanay ko pero wala ng nagsecond the motion eh.... so naniwala na lang ako sa nanay ko.... then, there was this professor who came to see me.... he handed over a letter with my name carefully printed on the enveloped.... he said that he looked for the owner of that letter kaso lang po malaki po ang skul namin kaya mahirap magkahanapan db? and so nung nakita nya ang name ko sa invitation, he decided to bring the letter thinking that it could save souls... daw....

and so i was about to open the letter when the priest ask kung sino daw ang tututol... dedma ako.... alam namang manggulo pa ko noh.... binasa ko na ang letter..... nakakatouch po talaga.... he opened up his feelings for me.... hoping na meron din daw akong feelings for him.... he ask that if i will show up to our hang- out the next day after he gave his letter, then it means that i also have feelings for him and that he would love me for the rest of our lives.... but if i wont.... then he will never open that topic again.... he pleaded to me na sana pumunta ako... ...if only i have that letter.... if only i knew about it.... kung di lang ako clumsy and careless to keep that letter... things would be diffrent.... if only.....

and so i heard the priest announced the couple as husband and wife.... ang sakit...... picture taking..... gusto mang sumabog ng nararamdaman ko.... as you know.... magaling akong magpigil.... pero masakit po talaga.... sobra...... after the picture taking...... niyakap ako ng bestfrend ko.... ang higpit.... and teary eyed nyang cnabi na.... i still love you.......

moral lesson:

avoid being so clumsy..,!

your mother is your real number one fan!

ang pride.., dapat piniprito yan!

tsaka dapat sumisipot sa date na sinet.., (sayang yung food)..,

and madami pang iba.., kayo na lang ang magdagdag...

lessons in love

WHEN YOU FALL IN LOVE
(Debunking the Myths That Are Driving You Crazy)
By: Bo Sanchez


This article isn't for teenagers only.
Falling in love happens to the young and the not-so-young.
(Did you see 42-year-old Tom Cruise jump up and down Oprah's couch because of Katie?)
It happens to everyone.. Fat, thin, tall, short, intelligent, uneducated, holy, not so holy,
dark, white, yellow, green... it doesn't really matter.
All of us fall in love. And we get stuck in myths that drive us absolutely crazy.
My goal is to debunk these myths and convince you not to believe in them. Let's begin....... ...

MYTH 1: LOVE WILL CONQUER ALL

Let me qualify.
This is such a tricky myth. Because love will conquer all. But love
------ as defined by glazed-eyed lovers ----- will not.

If you believe in this myth, you might do the following:

You overlook major obstacles in your relationship.

Everyone you know is wondering why you chose that creature from outer space as your boyfriend.
Your bestfriends are telling you to get rid of him.
Your family is telling you to throw him out of a running vehicle.
Aling Rosa of the sari-sari store across the street is telling you to lace his drink with poison.

But you won't --------- because you're in love. That's why there are songs entitled,
"you and me against the world" Your bestbuds comment,
'but he's been jobless for the past three years!"

And you say, "He's free-spirited. He feels boxed in when he's in the office.
'(in other words, he's undisciplined, lazy bum.)
Your officemates say, 'He flirts with other women constantly!'
and you say, 'No, he's just friendly.' (in other words, he's a pervert)

Your cousins say, 'He's taking drugs, He's got needle marks all over his arm.
And you say, 'No, he's into cross stitching.'

You overstay in toxic relationships, believing that your love will change him.

The wedding doesn't transform anyone. Even if three Popes officiate the wedding..

The person you'll march with into the church will be the same person you'll march with out of the church.
He doesn't change one bit.

In fact, the marriage makes the hidden more obvious.

If he was selfish before he got married, he will be even more selfish after the wedding.
If he was hypercritical before he got married,
he'll even be more vile and prolific with his criticisms after wedding.

Here's the truth : You need more than feelings of love to make a relationship work.
You need mature character, total commitment and a minimum level of compatibility.

Especially compatibility in the area of values and mission in life. I hear people say,
'We're compatible. Our names begin with the same letter J.
My name is Julie and his name is Julio. We're both born in July."
Wow. That's so deep, I want to cry.

MYTH 2 : WHEN IT"S TRUE LOVE YOU WILL KNOW THE MOMENT YOU MEET THE OTHER PERSON

I'm sure you've had this experience before.

You are in a crowded room. You're surrounded by boring, noisy chatter when, suddenly,
this gorgeous guy enters the door. Your eyes meet.
Instantly, time stands still. The universe grinds to a halt.
Except for this attractive man in front of you, everything in your vision becomes a giant blur.
The hubbub of the crowd becomes a soft muffle and,
from out of nowhere, you here gentle violin music from the background.

One week later, he's your boyfriend.

A few weeks later, you discover that your boyfriend's a pathological liar,.
buried in credit card debt, borrows money from all his girlfriends (you're his eight in six months).

Your mind says, 'Dump him'

Your heart says, 'But it was love at first sight!'

Here are the consequences ...

You become so focused on the magical first moment,
you become blind to the dark side of the relationship.

Six out of seven days, you're fighting with your boyfriend.

But you can't give him up because you met each other in such a magical moment.
Your car keys fell and he picked it up, and then your eyes met,
you smelled his deodorant, and you dropped your keys again ......
How can you not be meant for each other?

You become a love-at-first- sight junkie that you could miss out on the 'real thing'.

One intelligent woman told me, 'Bo, there's this guy who's courting me.
He's okay. He's kind, he's responsible, he has a good job.......'
"I could hear a 'but' coming ," I said. 'but there are no sparks!" she bit her lip.
"No violin music playing in the background huh" "none.
When I see him, the background music I hear is lululalu-lalulalula lei..." "listen.
You don't need a magical first moment to meet our potential husband.
The important things are mature character, financial responsibility,
ability for commitment, compatible mission and values..."

I actually met this girl again on her wedding, and before she marched down the aisle,
she whispered to me, "Do you hear the violin music, Bo? It's loud and clear."
It doesn't have to be love at first sight.
In fact, marriages with the least adjustments are those between friends
who've known each other for years before they realize that they're good marriage material.
What is love at first sight?
Many times, it's lust at first sight. Or infatuation at first sight.
Don't give it too much weight.

Here's the truth: it takes a moment to experience infatuation but true love takes a lifetime.

MYTH 3 : IF IT IS TRUE LOVE YOU WILL FEEL THIS WAY FOR EACH OTHER FOREVER

No, you won't. Here are the consequences for believing this myth :

You panic when the feelings wane, and wonder whether the marriage is over
and whether you really loved one another in the first place.
Imagine the night of your honeymoon.
Your new bride is sleeping. The cotton curtains are gently swaying in the cool breeze.
You gaze at her lovely face. You study her soft cheeks. Her long eyelashes.
Her beautiful nose, her parted red lips.
And all of a sudden, she snores.
"Ngggggggooork"
How do you react? Because it's your honeymoon, you say, 'How cute.'
Six months down the road, the same scene transpires. Your wife is sleeping.
And the same cotton curtains are gently swaying in the cool breeze..
And you hear her snore.
"Ngggggoork. "
What do you say?
"Ssssssheeeesh, Honey! You sound like a boat!'
What has happened? The feelings have gone. Let me say this:
'That's normal. It happens to everyone. But it doesn't mean your love is gone so don't panic!
You can make a decision to love the snoring boat.

You start blaming your partner for the loss of love
This is nutty.
But many people do it: when we don't feel in love, we think it's the fault of the other person.
And so we fight him.
Again, we fall out of love because we're human beings.
It's nobody's fault.
The moment you fall out of love, the real work begins .
Let me explain.
This is the most important point I'm going to make.
(I got this from Scott Peck in his bestseller book, The Road Less traveled)

Falling in love isn't love
Here's why. When you fall in love......
a. No decision is required. Falling in love just happens.
b. No effort is required. Falling in love is like.... Well, falling.
c. No hard work is required. Falling in love is being bitten by the love bug.

On the other hand, true love requires all three :

1. Decision, 2.. Effort and 3. Lots of hard work.

In the Bible, love is a command. You make it happen.
Sure true love can only happen after you've fallen out of love. this is interesting.
When you begin choosing to love, even if you don't feel like doing it ---- that's true love.
And that's the foundation of a lasting marriage..


MYTH 4: YOUR PARTNER WILL FULFILL YOU COMPLETELY

Again because falling in love satisfied you completely ----- you want the same satisfaction to last.
No it won't.
Consequence? You might fail to recognize a good relationship
because your partner isn't fulfilling the needs you should be fulfilling yourself.

Here's the truth: the right partner will fulfill many of your needs but not all of them .

There are just some things your husband can't give you: you're self-worth.
Your spirituality. Your inner happiness.
These are things you have to work on your own.
I've met lots of people who think they're dissatisfied with their marriage.
In reality, they're dissatisfied with themselves.
I've met lots of people who think they're bored with their marriages.
And they complain to the high heavens how boring their husband or wife is ----
when in truth, they're really bored with life.
Meet your own needs. Find your happiness in God.
Find your niche, your calling, your destiny.
And then share your joy with your spouse.

MYTH 5: IF IT'S TRUE LOVE YOU WON'T BE ATTRACTED TO ANYONE ELSE

If you believe in this myth, you panic when you get attracted to someone else,
questioning the authenticity of your love for your spouse.
One man told me, 'Bo, I love my wife. Or I thought I did.
But then I met this woman at work. She has nice make-up.
She smells nice. She wears a pencil-cut skirt.
When I go home, my wife is wearing a drab rag.
Her hair is undone. She smells of vinegar.
Gosh I am attracted to this girl at work."

Being attracted to someone is normal ----- even if you have a happy marriage.
But being attracted doesn't mean falling into adultery.

Every time you think of the other woman, discipline your heart and say, 'Home, boy, Home!'
and escort your heart back to your wife. Because if you feed your attraction with fantasies
and constantly think about the other woman, it grows.
But if you starve your attraction, it dies a natural death."True greatness does not come to those Who strive for worldy fame, It lies instead with those who choose To love and serve in Jesus name."